“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart. I’ll stay there forever.”
Winnie the Pooh
“My father always used to say that when you die, if you’ve got five real friends, then you’ve had a great life.”
I couldn’t make up my mind about my quotes today. Warm and fuzzy, or practical, so I added both. They were the two sides of our dear friend John and his love for his family and many, many, many friends.When I met John, and he and Edyce started to date and later marry, he was definitely the sidekick in their relationship. As one of Margo’s friends shared in her toast the other night about Mike (the new husband), “before there was you, there was me, and you are one lucky man!” Could have been my speech to Edyce, Margo’s mom, when she and John got married 37 years ago! Edyce was bigger than life! Always celebrating everything and anything-I have a vacuum cleaner at the ready for every letter, card or package she sends to clean up the confetti when I open them! The John I knew was quiet, unassuming, humble but passionate about his family, work and play. The kindest person, you’d ever meet, he had a look when he got frustrated with Edyce that reminded us of Desi when he got a little frustrated with Lucy! Edyyyyyce….John was a sneaky bigger than life guy. And Edyce was really the sidekick. They played off each other’s strengths so well. Edyce was the light around whom all of the moths gathered. She loved to be around a group of people and I thought that John was the more quiet one. He got along with everyone. He became friends with everyone he ever built a house for and everyone and every contractor he ever patronized. Once he’s your friend, he’s your friend for life and continued over the years to quietly add to his many friends. He was a very successful architect and builder and admired and missed by all of us.Turns out that Margo and Mike have the same thing happening. Margo seems bigger than life but we all know that she and Mike will each take their turn in the spotlight and be partners. Like John and Edyce. John left his quiet mark on each one of his family and each one of us. He made sure that his loving presence was felt. Though he couldn’t be present physically, he was there, as was Mike’s father who passed away on October 16, 2016. They made sure they were both remembered.I would be remiss if I didn’t mention daughter number one, our sweet Ali, her husband Brandon and the stars of the show, Oliver and Emerson. I think John gave our 3 year old Oliver some dancing moves at some point. That little guy can dance! And did! For hours! Jay and I haven’t danced like that since…1999! We had to keep up with Oliver. We were too busy dancing to take any pictures. The mood was so uplifting. There was no sadness. Margo’s cousin, Michael Ferguson, was the officiant and lent some levity to the beautiful ceremony at sunset. Lots of laughter and joy. Faith, Hope and Love were all present. As was John’s famous charcuterie tray. He could do it all. As Jay says, he was a real Renaissance man. Here’s Edyce and I with the beach breeze, and Jay and I. Today, we’re off to breakfast and then to see what’s what. Best wishes to the new couple on the adventure they are beginning. They have a support system like no other. We’ll be there to help.
I’ll end this now-I’m rambling and becoming disconnected.
In the meantime, do something you’ve never done before. Find your passion and explore it. Every single day is a gift and a blessing.