“I want to teach you so much that you must know to find happiness within yourself. Yet I don’t know where to begin or how. I want you to be a square. That’s right, a square! I want you to kiss your grandmother when you walk into the room even if you’re with friends…I want you to lend dignity to the things you believe in and respect for the things you don’t believe in. I want you to be a human begin who needs friends, and in turn deserves them. I want you to be a square who polishes his shoes, buttons the top button of his shirt occasionally, and stands straight and looks people in the eye when they are talking to you. There is a time to laugh and a time to cry. I want you to know the difference.”
Erma Bombeck, At Wit’s End.This is my favorite day of the year. Memories come flooding back. It was so cold this day many years ago that the Governor asked everyone to turn their heat down to save energy. It was something like 20 below zero for days and snowing nonstop. Jack was 2 weeks overdue (or was he just not ready to come out in the cold?) and the doctors decided it was time to induce. Do they do that anymore I wonder? After being induced, I laid in the bed, waiting for labor to begin. In those days, I knew nothing of gravity during labor. I trusted my doctors and walking around was never mentioned. Could have helped to speed things up. So as the day wore on, and labor didn’t come, they sent me home and we went back early the next day. Labor began and went on and on. After a while, the dr. decided to do a c-section and I heard him say that he had a plane to catch to a ski vacation. And Jack was born. Maybe this is why he loves the cold weather and snowboarding. Who knows?
One thing I do know. Children are gifts from God and come with their own plan. We merely borrow them. We teach them what we know and hang on for the ride. Here are some of my favorite pictures. Not all, because there are so many but a few that we have hanging on the walls and I look at every day.
God has been so good to us and we are so thankful for this gift. Jack, you make us proud every day and now we love Madison too. He definitely had a plan for you.
Here’s to many many more years with you both! Guess how much I love you?
Erma Bombeck is one of my favorite authors. She had a column in our local paper and I never missed it. I was a kid and loved her humor about families and motherhood. When she started to write books, I bought them. She had a wonderful way of putting everything in a humorous way that was loving, self deprecating and true! If you aren’t familiar with her work, look her up. She’s incredibly funny. So why did I choose such a serious quote? It’s true and you are living up to that. You DO look people in the eye. You ARE present. You have taught me so much that I look forward to learning more from you. Philosophy has always been in your wheelhouse. You ALWAYS asked the hard questions and asked the whys. I’ve learned alongside you. You have been the teacher all these years. You have a huge heart and a discerning mind. I love you Jack.
Remember to wash your hands, don’t touch your face, stay home but if you MUST go out, wear a mask and keep the length of a full grown llama (which is bigger than an alpaca) between you and the next person.
Have a blessed day!